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Past Events
2022
Workouts
Available on the RelationFit YouTube Channel
Dec 16, 2021
Workout
Listen Well
Find Options Amidst the Circumstances
Make Effective Requests
Dec 9, 2021
Workout
Caught Doing Good. (10 min)
Process vs. Outcome. (10 min)
Finding The Need Driving Things. (10 min)
Nov 25, 2021
Workout
Theme: To make the most of every situation.
Have To --> Choose To. (10 min)
Appreciating Transformation. (10 min)
Complements Without Judgement. (10 min)
Nov 4, 2021
Workout
De-Stress Listening.
Wish list.
Finding The Need Behind Self-Criticism.
Oct 27, 2021
Workout
Catch up
Problem Gift
Need Finding
Oct 7, 2021
Workout
Caught Doing Good (10 min)
Process vs. Outcome (10 min)
Finding The Need Driving The Monster (10 min)
April 27, 2021
Workout
Theme: How can we get what we really want and at the same time deal with the needs of others?
Desiring the good life (15 min)
The appropriate use of fear (15 min)
Dealing with disappointment (8 min)
April 20, 2021
Workout
Theme: How can we get what we really want and at the same time deal with the needs of others?
Positive History Review (16 min)
Respect them even if… (10 min)
Offer before asking (15 min)
April 13, 2021
Workout
Theme: How can we get what we really want and at the same time deal with the needs of others?
Appreciation (10 min)
Develop positive assumptions (15 min)
Living in the present without resenting the past or fearing the future (15 min)
April 6, 2021
Workout
Theme: How can we get what we really want and at the same time deal with the needs of others?
Appreciation (10 min)
Put Yourself In Your Shoes (15 min)
Happy Without It (15 min)
Feb 16, 2021
Workout
Theme: Little Things That Make Outsized Impact
6 Hr Strategy (4 min)
Temporary & Permanent Problems (10 min)
The Points List (20 min)
Feb 9, 2021
Workout
Theme: Powerful Conversations
Sharing Your Side - Perceptions, Interpretation, Value. (10 min)
Recognizing Key Contributions (10 min)
Making Decisions By Embracing “And” (10 min)
Feb 2, 2021
Workout
Enhancing Meaning + Value + Satisfaction
What’s Happening? (15 min)
Why Are We Doing It? (10 min)
What Are We Here For? (5 min)
Jan 26, 2021
Workout
Theme: Champion Dreams
The Hidden Dream (12 min)
The Hidden Message (10 min)
The Hidden Choice (8 min)
Jan 19, 2021
Workout
Theme: Enjoy our lives even though everything isn’t perfect.
Know your partner (10 min)
Hurdle barriers in life (10 min)
Encourage along the way (10 min)
Jan 12, 2021
Workout
Theme: Treating this year as a positive experiment
What is Happening? (10min)
What Do We Want? (10min)
How Can We Get More Of It? (10min)
Nov 17, 2020
Workout
Theme: Complaining well.
Listen to the complaint. (10 min)
Find options amidst the circumstances. (10 min)
Make request to resolve the problem. (10 min)
Nov 10, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Caught Doing Good. (10 min)
Strength: Process vs. Outcome. (10 min)
Workout: Finding the need driving the monster. (15 min)
Sept 29, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Have to -> Choose to. (15 min)
Strength: Appreciating transformation. (10 min)
Workout: Complements without judgement. (10 min)
Sept 26, 2020
Date Nigh
COVID: Home Made Desert & Movie
Sept 22, 2020
Workout
Teaching: 6 Hour strategy (2 min)
Warm up: De-stress listening. (10 min)
Strength: Wish list. (12 min)
Workout: Finding the need behind self-criticism. (12 min)
Sept 15, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Catch up. (10 min)
Strength: Problem à Gift. (10 min)
Spark: John Bowlby. Forty-four Juvenile Thieves
Workout: Need Finding. (10 min)
Sept 8, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Caught Doing Good. (10 min)
Strength: Process vs. Outcome. (10 min)
Workout: Finding the need driving the monster. (15 min)
May 14, 2020
Date Night
COVID: Watch recording of partner’s favorite cultural experience. (2 hrs)
COVID: Look through family photos and tell stories from before partner knew you. (2 hrs)
May 7, 2020
Date Night
April 30, 2020
Date Night
COVID: Watch partner’s favorite new movie. (2 hrs)
April 23, 2020
Date Night
COVID: Bake partner’s favorite cookies, pie or cake. (2 hrs)
Teaching: Performance professionals train over a lifetime.
Warm up: Appreciating transformation. (15 min)
Strength: Name the Saboteurs. (12 min)
Workout: For me, not to me + Appreciation. (10 min)
April 16, 2020
Workout
Teaching: Finding Functional Opportunities
Warm up: Story Spotting. (10 min)
Strength: Logistical planning to protect dreams. (10 min)
Workout: Appreciation. (10 min)
April 9, 2020
Workout
April 2, 2020
Workout
Teaching: Making the most of 6 hours.
Warm up: De-stress listening. (10 min)
Strength: Logistics to protect dreams. (10 min)
Workout: Caught Doing Good. (10 min)
March 26, 2020
Workout
Teaching: RelationFit Pyramid
Theme: Good questions, authentic answers.
Warm up: Catch up. (10 min) Strength:
Problem -> Gift. (10 min)
Workout: Dream above today. (12 min)
Warm up: Envision the good life in permanent domains of concern. (12 min)
Teaching: Lanny Bassham, Olympian 2x. (3 min)
Strength: Process vs. outcome. (10 min)
Workout: Caught doing good. (10 min)
March 19, 2020
Workout
Teaching: World Views & Philosophy
Warm up: Partnership philosophy. (10 min)
Strength: Response to disappointment. (10 min)
Workout: Simple appreciation. (10 min)
Feb 4, 2020
Workout
Technique: 4 conversation types.
Warm up: Full spectrum questions. (10 min)
Strength: Where is the opportunity? (10 min)
Workout: Caught doing good. (10 min)
Jan 28, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Before I met you… (10 min)
Strength: For me, not to me (10 min)
Workout: Work of Forgiveness (10 min)
Jan 21, 2020
Workout
Warm up: Journey Map (14 min)
Strength: Question Map (10 min)
Workout: Dreams Hidden in Complaints (10 min)
Jan 14, 2020
Workout
Warm up: De-Stress Listening (10 min)
Workout: Experiment Review (10 min)
Spark: Monty Roberts & Karen Pryor (3 min)
Strength: Positive Reinforcement (6 min)
July 31, 2019
Workout
Spark: Lance Dodes M.D. (3 min)
Warm up: That’s Right (10 min)
Workout: Recognition – Good life – AAA (12 min)
Strength: Compulsive Traps (8 min)
July 24, 2019
Workout
Spark: James Stockdale: POW (5 min)
Warm up: Caught doing good (10 min)
Workout: Story spotting (8 min)
Strength: Grit (15 min)
July 17, 2019
Workout
Spark: Louis Zamperini: 47 days open ocean (3 min)
Warm up: For me, not to me (10 min)
Strength: I like, I want (15 min)
Workout: Story spotting (8 min)
June 26, 2019
Workout
June 19, 2019
Workout
Spark: Corrie ten Boom: Holocaust survivor (3 min)
Warm up: Catchup (10 min)
Strength: Forgiveness (15 min)
Spark: Lanny Bassham, Olympian (4 min)
Warm up: Debrief the Positive (10 min)
Strength: Process over Outcome (15 min)
Workout: Attainment (8 min)
JUne 12, 2019
Workout
June 5, 2019
Workout
Spark: Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor (3 min)
Warm up: Finding Meaning (5 min)
Strength: Identify Foundation (15 min)
Workout: AAA: Appreciation, Affection, Admiration + Envision the Good Life (12 min)
Mar 13, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Caught doing good (10 min)
Lecture: Importance of friendship (15 min)
Strength: I like, I want (15 min)
Workout: Story spotting (8 min)
FEB 20, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Date Planning (10 min)
Strength: Question like a journalist (10 min)
Workout: Recognition / Dreams / Appreciation (12 min)
FEB 13, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Date Planning (10 min)
Strength: Question like a journalist (10 min)
Workout: Recognition / Dreams / Appreciation (12 min)
FEB 13, 2019
Workout
Chipper: Red Wings (40 min)
FEB 6, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Holiday Experiment Review (10 min)
Strength: Location Calibration (20 min)
Workout: Plan Ahead (10 min)
Jan 30, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Weekly Appreciation Review (10 min)
Strength: Get “Of Course You Cannot Compromise!” (20 min)
Workout: Date night planning (10 min)
Jan 23, 2019
Workout
Warm up: Review last week’s experiment (10 min)
Strength: Get “That’s Right!” (20 min)
Workout: Date night planning (10 min)
Jan 16, 2019
Workout
Warm up:
•Definitions of success? (10 min)
•Review the last year’s experiment (10 min)
Strength: Date night planning (10 min)
Workout: Financial fitness (8 min)
Nov 6, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Name the Saboteurs (12 min)
Strength: Neighborhoods (10 min)
Workout: Envision the Good Life (16 min)
Oct 30, 2018
Workout
“Best of” Anniversary Edition!
Warm up: Problem -> Gift (10 min)
Strength: Catch Up (10 min)
Workout: AAA + Dream about the Good Life (16 min)
Sept 25, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Full Spectrum Descriptions (10 min)
Strength: Name the Saboteurs (12 min)
Workout: History Review (16 min)
Sept 22, 2018
Date Night
You’r choice!
Sept 18, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Listening at 3 levels (10 min)
Strength: Dreams in Permanent Domains (16 min)
Workout: Name the games next week (10 min)
Sept 11, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Story Spotting (8 min)
Strength: Complaining(16 min)
Workout: Map Contribution (12 min)
Sept 4, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Catch up. (8 min)
Strength: Blame àContribution (20 min)
Workout: Open Windows + Envision the Good Life (12 min)
Sept 4, 2018
New Series
BAD NEWS BARGAINS: This 4 week class will focus on the "bad news bargains" we make with ourselves and others. Practice will focus on the art of negotiation, detecting the stories that drive us, and making effective requests of our partners to do something better. Join us.
Aug 1, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Catch up. (8 min)
Strength: 8 Behavior Modifications (20 min)
Workout: Open Windows + Envision the Good Life (12 min)
July 28, 2018
Date Night
New date night cheat sheet. Download the guide (pdf)
July 25, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Catch up. (8 min)
Strength: Designing around solvable problems. (20 min)
Workout: Expanded partner map. (12 min)
July 18, 2018
Workout
Warm up: De-Stress Listening. (14 min)
Strength: Influence. (8 min)
Workout: Problem -> Gift. (12 min)
July 11, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Turn Towards. (8 min)
Strength: De-Stress Listening. (14 min)
Workout: AAA: Appreciation, Affection, Admiration + Envision the Good Life. (10 min)
June 5, 2018
Workout
Warmup: Stories (8min)
Strength: Shared Meaning (20 min)
Workout: Expand Partner Map (8min)
May 29, 2018
Workout
Warmup: Catch up (8min)
Strength: Identity Drivers (20 min)
Workout: Appreciation (8min)
May 22, 2018
Workout
Warmup: Dreams (7min)
Strength: Diving Below Deadlock (15 min)
Workout: Appreciation (8 min)
May 15, 2018
Workout
Warmup: Imagine the gift (7 min)
Strength: Certainty Fallacy (15 min)
Workout: And Stance (8min)
Feb 8, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Recognition (10 min)
Strength: Neighborhoods (30 min)
Feb 1, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Problems > Gifts. (5 min)
Strength: Neighborhoods. (30 min)
Workout: Envision the Good Life. (8 min)
Jan 24, 2018
Workout
Warm up: Important Moments. (10 min)
Strength: Neighborhoods. (30 min)
Workout: Envision the Good Life. (4 min)
Dec 18. 2017
Workout
Warm up: Catch up. (5 min/partner = 10 min)
Strength: Saboteurs. (10 min)
Workout: Repairs (20 min)
Dec 7, 2017
Workout
As many reps as possible night.
Warm up: Catch up (10 min)
Strength: Reframe (10 min)
Workout: AMRAP (20)
Open Windows.
Envision the Good Life.
Count total reps scored for entire night.
Nov 30, 2017
Workout
Warm up: Catch Up. (5 min/partner = 10 min)
Strength: Story spotting (5 min/partner = 10 min)
Workout: As many reps as possible (14 min)
Healthy complaining.
Listen for the longing behind the words.
AAA: Appreciation, Affection, Admiration
Nov 15, 2017
Workout
Warm up: See problem as a Gift (3 min)
Strength: Catch Up. (14 min)
Workout: As many reps as possible (7 min)
AAA: Appreciation, Affection, Admiration
Envision the Good Life